Wednesday, April 15, 2015

"What Happens in Vegas Stays in Vegas," But... Should It?

"What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas," but... should it? Should honeymoons end when the vacation is over? Should they stay in Vegas, Cancun, Jamaica, or wherever your honeymoon was? Should what happened on the honeymoon stay there?  

Was a great honeymoon time with your spouse just meant to be a fantasy time, where you could kiss work goodbye for a few days and check out from reality and then, leave the honeymoon in the past while you come back to reality to live out your "normal" marriage life? 
Elyssa and Wladimir Joseph Power of Honeymoon Marriage
During prayer in our wedding ceremony, Joseph Heisinger prayed about our Honeymoon...

Two possible answers:   
If yes, a honeymoon should be different than reality? Disowning the honeymoon experience and coming back to reality may mean that you had a rare fuel source of inspiration, affection, and genuine love during the honeymoon away that was just tossed out. This left you with a manufactured brand new source of motivation and rationalization for how you will treat and care for your spouse with the utmost affection and love.  

If no, let the honeymoon continue burning when you return back into the daily life. How do you do it? How do you keep the love alive? 

Honeymoon! Does it have to end? Elyssa and Wladimir want to know.  

Joseph Heisinger answers this question during our wedding while he is praying for us.
(Joseph has been happily married for many years. He and his wife, Laurie live an exemplary life together, they are admirable worthy marriage heroes.) He prayed, yes; yes for our honeymoon to not end. Today my wife and I were talking about the spiritual unity, prayerfulness, joint obedience, and downright assertive action that have to be taken to keep the honeymoon alive. (We will be sharing how more thoroughly on this in the near future, but in the meantime, here is a snippet from our thoughts.)

Why not have anniversaries every month instead of every year? What would a marriage like that look like?    

Perhaps try putting two recurring monthly calendar events into your schedule - one for even months, the other for odd months, and each spouse leading the marriage celebration for that month? It can be but does not need to be something extravagant. For us, we alternate owning this celebration. One of us intentionally will do a little something special: write something, cook something, pray something, or find something that God is doing... and take a little time together to celebrate each other and to remember that God has brought us together for His purpose.

What do you think? Is it possible to keep the honeymoon going? How do you keep things fresh in your marriage? Tell us! Or if your flame has sizzled from a rip-roarin' fire to cold ashes, what do you think would ignite the flame again?

"What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas." But, should it?

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