Simple Key to Change Your Relationship Status

Forever Single -

Are you perpetually single? Or do you know somebody that is still single even though they would like to be married? That was me, the forever single girl.

I always wanted to get married or at least assumed I would get married, I think I just figured that I would stumble upon the right person. After all, I was active in my local community. I had a great career. I had met thousands of people from all over the world. I wasn’t perfect by any means, but I was a relatively social person. I was attractive, well-adjusted. I maybe I could be a little intimidating at over 6 feet tall, but I was nice, and it didn’t take people long to get to know and like me … somehow my entire 20s had actively passed by and a dragon slaying handsome prince charming didn’t show up on a white horse.

It just didn’t make sense, so occasionally I wondered:

• Was something wrong with me?

• Why was it that love didn’t seem to happen to me?
• Was it ever going to happen?
  
  

But mostly I just defended my internal responses:

• My expectations aren’t too high
• All the good ones are taken
• It’s where I live; that’s the problem  
  
  

Facing reality - 30 and still single.

Elyssa's 30th Birthday Lunch with Dani

On my 30th birthday, I got smacked with a 2x4 of reality. A mentor and friend of mine, Dani Johnson, invited me out to lunch for my birthday. If you don’t know Dani, she is an internationally renowned and highly sought after business, relationship and finance coach.

Have you ever had a friend or mentor say something to you that you took a hold of, and it shifted your life in a permanent way?

There I was, all dressed up for my birthday, hair and makeup done having a nice lunch and then Dani started kindly pelting me with questions -

“Do you actually want to be married?”

“Are you called to being a wife?”

“What kind of man do you want?”

“Why don’t you get on EHarmony and date online?”

On my 30th birthday, I was smacked with a 2x4 of reality. A mentor and friend of mine, Dani Johnson, invited me out to lunch for my birthday. If you don’t know Dani, she is an internationally renowned and highly sought after business, relationship, and finance coach.
Have you ever had a friend or mentor say something to you that you took a hold of, and it shifted your life in a permanent way?

Fully Surrender -

If I could say one thing about what I learned when I got promoted from leaving my singleness, it is this: hold nothing back from God. Give Him everything. Totally surrender! The greatest reward and breakthrough you have ever seen in your life is on the other side of that radical surrender! It will require blind faith (acting on what you see and hear of God's guidance without requiring that you know exactly the outcome), it will require absolute trust, it may be scary, but it will be worth it.

And guess what? That was the case when I was single, and it’s the same case now that I am married - surrender is the key to breakthrough. The breakthrough of experiencing singleness without frustration, and healthily being prepared to leave singleness. (Some people have the calling to be single, and their breakthrough promotion exists while they are single and have surrendered their relationship status to be whatever God calls for them.) Also, the breakthrough of experiencing honeymoon freshness in my marriage because I don't limit marriage to being done my way, but instead God's way. I have become a marriage pit bull because I healthily was promoted out of my singleness into my marriage with my loving God's-Plan-A-for-me groom Wladimir. Happy Fifth Month Anniversary!!!

Breakthrough!

As an aside, this breakthrough principle was being discussed in singleness and marriage; however, the principle applies to any area of life. 
Where in your life do you want to see breakthrough happen?
Is it time to surrender to The One that can obliterate those obstacles?

Wladimir and Elyssa Joseph, Honeymoon Living